Women are begging to be more satisfied in bed by their men and the one single way to get there is for them to have a better understanding of how to provide that pleasure on a regular basis. There are a few easily understandable steps that can be taken in order to provide an optimal orgasm for the lovely lady.
Slow and Intentional
It is crucially important to begin slowly and intentionally in the beginning. Start with a kiss on the lips, then on the neck and proceed from there with caution. It should take time while the person moves on down the body as the woman becomes more comfortable with her surroundings. It is important to go slow and move in gradually.
Then move down the center of the body, with the hands always touching, until you reach the lower body area. Clothing can be removed at this point, unless there is some type of resistance. It is also important to have occasional eye contact between the two of you.
Build Up Tension
When you allow for a long slow build up it helps to create positive sexual tension in an appealing way before anything sexual actually takes place. It is through slow and methodical movements that the female body will react and by the end of the ongoing interaction it will offer a more enhanced orgasm for the woman.
The female genitalia is somewhat sensitive, which means that even the gentlest motions will create a reaction. That is why you should listen to anything the female might be saying to you or any non-verbal signals she might be giving off. If she feels overwhelmed, she will show you that she is.
Start by leaning in and softly kissing the top of the area once or twice. Next, drag the tongue from the base of the clitoris up to the point nice and slow. Repeat this step several times before moving on. It would be helpful to spread out the area with both hands, one on either side for a better view.
Be confident that if you drag the tongue up and down and then back and forth it will be pleasing for her and you can continue on with your tongue. The most sensitive place is just under the tip and should be massaged with two fingers for about thirty second intervals for optimal results to be achieved.
Target More than One Area
Try inserting one finger inside of the vagina slowly and gently, then make a one hundred and eighty degree turn with the same finger. After that drag then finger back and forth in a linear pattern as it will stimulate her further. If you can tell that she feels comfortable, then try inserting a second finger and continue with the fluid motion.
Even though you are focused and working in one given area, remember that there are multiples senses to be teased and pleased and those will also heighten her experience. One example would be to reach up to her and run your fingers through her hair, allowing the scent of your cologne on your wrists to waft into her nose. The sense of smell can have a highly calming effect on the human body.
You could also try reaching up over her torso and starting just below her neck. There start to use your nails to gently scratch down the surface of her skin. Stay within the middle line of the torso and move slowly down her body to the panty line.
The most important aspect of oral sex is to engage the mind and the body equally. That is how to optimally achieve the best performance for her. Go slow and pay close attention to her words and her non – verbal signals as well.